9 But avoid foolish controversies, genealogies, dissensions, and quarrels about the law, for they are unprofitable and worthless. 10 As for a person who stirs up division, after warning him once and then twice, have nothing more to do with him, 11 knowing that such a person is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned. – Titus 3:9-11
There was a time when I lived for argument and debate. I enjoyed “lively discussions” whenever and wherever I could find them. Over the years, my heart has changed and my appetite for controversy and endless debate has waned. While there are certainly times to stand for what is right and defend the faith and the truth, that is seldom what people engage in the most heated discussions about. In my experience, they are usually unanswerable issues and unwinnable debates that consume people who like argue in the body of Christ. Learning to recognize when discussions turn (or already are) unprofitable is an important step in growing in Christlikeness. Sometimes quarrels are worth losing for the sake of peace with our brothers.